Anger is a natural human emotion and is typically felt when one is frustrated, or faced with
obstacles, or disappointing events. When managed effectively, anger can catalyze positive
change. Anger becomes a larger issue if you are causing verbal or physical harm to others,
constantly feeling angry, perceiving your anger as unmanageable, or noticing that minor
occurrences tend to frustrate you. Uncontrolled anger can lead to detrimental effects on
personal health and relationships. So it becomes important to understand the significance
of anger management and consider strategies to cope with anger.
Why Manage Anger?
Uncontrolled anger can have serious health consequences, including increased blood
pressure, insomnia, digestive problems, and headaches. It can also contribute to violent
and risky behaviors, such as substance abuse, and significantly damage relationships with
family, friends, and colleagues.
Strategies to Cope with Anger
Effectively managing anger involves several strategies:
• Relaxation Techniques: Practicing deep-breathing exercises, visualizing calming
scenes, or repeating soothing words can help reduce anger.
• Cognitive Restructuring: Changing the way you think can alter your emotional
response. Avoid using absolutes like “never” or “always,” which can escalate
feelings of anger.
• Problem-Solving: Sometimes, anger is a result of real problems. Focus on finding solutions rather than dwelling on the problem itself.
• Improved Communication: Slow down and think through your responses. Listen carefully to what others are saying and take time before answering.
• Using Humor: Lightening up can help diffuse tension. However, avoid sarcasm, as it
can hurt feelings and make things worse.
Real-Life Example
Consider Jada, who often found herself becoming angry during her daily commute due to traffic congestion on the highway she would take. By implementing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing and listening to calming music, she was able to reduce her anger and arrive at work in a more positive mood.
When to Seek Professional Help
If you find that your anger is causing problems in your relationships, at work, or leading to violent or risky behaviors, it may be time to seek professional help. Practitioners can work
with you to develop a range of techniques for changing your thinking and behavior.
Conclusion and Call to Action
Managing anger is crucial for maintaining both physical and mental health, as well as
fostering healthy relationships. If you or someone you know is struggling with anger issues,
consider reaching out to us at Healing Pathways Counselling. Professional guidance can
provide the tools needed to control anger before it controls you.
Reference:
American Psychological Association. (2023, November 3). Control anger before it controls
you. Retrieved from https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control
